best friend asked me, :'' Hey, what were you doing on weekends normally?''
I answered, :'' spent my day with him, almost every weekends! ''
best friend was shocked, :'' Are you serious?! Don't you feel boring ?''
I said, :'' Of course NOT!!''
best friend keep quiet a while...
My turn to ask her, :'' Then what about you with your bf ? Your didnt hang out or meet up ?''
She said,: ''Not all the time, both us are busy, I want to give him more personal space an time.''
Oh I see..
She said again, :'' Even we meet up, also don't know what to do and where to go.. ''
I suggest her ,:'' hmmm... don't need to go out, just stay home watch movie..''
She quient and said, : '' Eee so bored.. don't want stay home.. "
Then, I've got nothing to say..
Different couple have different way to maintain their r/s.
Same as me too.. I'm not sure how good am I, but for sure I will do my best to let my r/s last longer.. :) I ever ask my bf that Am I too clingy... But he asked me do not anyhow!! Lol
Is that mean my bf likes me cling him ? Like a SUPERGLUE hahaha
Came accross an article about - A Clingy Girlfriend.
Am I ?? Sometimes, I do wonder too... =X
''When she is clingy, he feels trapped'', is every guys feels trapped if their gf is really clingy ??
Haha Well, I don't think so... or he just dont want to voice out, scared I not happy etc Lol
Feelings of ambivalence in a relationship are normal. No two people are perfectly suited.
Well, Are you wondering why your beau is suddenly irritable and prefers to spend time with his buddies rather than sit on a cold couch with you while watching your favorite movie ? You might have caught CGS - also known as Clingy-Girlfriend-Syndrome.
Yes, you are in your first few months as a couple. Understandably, you can’t keep your hands off each other. We get that and we can forgive that. But on your third year together and still your paws are all over him? Woah! Wait a minute there! You could well be tagged as Ms. Clingy Girlfriend of the Year! Lol
Signs of Clingy-Syndrome
- Can you stay in one room with your beau without hugging him, touching him or planting sweet, irritable little kisses on his cheeks? If you said no, then you definitely deserve the title!
- Do you call, text or e-mail your boyfriend every ten minutes just to check if something new happened to him? If yes, then, voila! You are a certified clingy girlfriend and is sure as hell working your way to blessed singleness!
- Can you not go out alone or with friends and would rather stay home than enjoy a cup of frap with a girlfriend because you find it hard to have a good time when he isn’t with you? Or do you stop him from going out with his friends if he refuses to bring you along? Do you always tag along in his personal appointments? If you are guilty of all these, then, you are a top-rate boyfriend-addict!
Omg~~ :( 70% ALL IN !!!
Why Being Clingy is Unhealthy
- Couples who are a notch too sweet are an eye sore. People usually get irritated with the sight of couples who are all over each other in places that aren’t exactly as private as your own bedroom. So if you don’t want to be attracting unwanted attention and receiving angry looks from Ms. Old-Lady-Standing-Next-In-Line, better get a hold of yourself and reserve that long sweet kiss at home!
- Your beau will not want too much of you. Sooner or later, he will get annoyed by your constant presence. He will think that you’re smothering him, leaving him no time for himself.
- Guys want as much freedom as possible. Girls should try to give them just enough of that to help them maintain that macho-guy feeling. Allowing them to think that they’re in control keeps their testosterone level up and boosts their ego!
- Keeping minimal distance can benefit you when your guy suddenly realizes that you’re becoming distant. It will be a red light for him! He’ll stop dead on his tracks and think, “She’s becoming too independent lately. What if I lose her to someone?” When this happens, be ready to open the door to see him waiting with a bouquet of flowers and a big teddy just for you!
Yes, you love him and you were born as a genetically-sweet person. But believe me; not allowing yourself to depend on him entirely and cling too much can only do wonders to you, your social life and your relationship. Time to pass on the title, girl!
Here I found How to cope with a clingy gf or bf :-
Difficulty: Moderately Challenging
Thing you'll need : Patience, Affection, Limitations
1. Make a decision - is this relationship worth all the effort. A clingy boyfriend or girlfriend is high maintenance, and probably always will be, so understand that. If the answer is no, your journey ends here. If yes, continue to the next step.
2. Communicate with your clingy boyfriend or girlfriend. Give he/she a chance to change their behavior by telling them about what they are doing and how it negatively affects you and the relationship. Don't expect he/she to read your mind and to get upset when they can't.
3. Give lots of love, attention and compliments when you are with your boyfriend or girlfriend. A clingy person is typically an insecure person and needs to feel like they are the center of your world to feel loved. Be aware that your boyfriend or girlfriend could be bringing a lot of emotional baggage into the relationship from past hurts. Be sensitive to that by reaffirming your love regularly.
4. Encourage your boyfriend or girlfriend to go out with friends without you. At first, these should be times when you will be doing nothing at home. He/she won't be worried about you and can enjoy themselves while getting used to doing things without you--and without it being too stressful.
5. Limit phone conversations. It's easier to end conversations when you are the one to initiate them, so be the first to call he/she. Remember, you don't have to answer the phone just because it is ringing.
6. Set date nights and limit them to once or twice a week. You don't have to be with your boyfriend or girlfriend every spare minute. Spending all your time with your partner will encourage their clingy behavior.
7. Take a break or sever the relationship completely if the above methods lead to anger and abuse from your clingy boyfriend or girlfriend. If you discover that this person is too needy and you will never be able to fill all their needs no matter how hard you try, it is time to end it. Be the bigger person, and spare yourself future guilt by breaking up with tact and not out of anger.
I think I should have to do this way also... weekday go meet him if neccessary ; otherwise, only meet up on weekends !! Frankly, I don't like to have long-distance r/s. As in, most important is have to communicate each other.. Like I dont know all about Gundam, when bf talked about it, i will listened to him, try to get into the story he wants to shared with me.. When he talked about bike, I also follow him to the end of the story although I really dont know.. We must give and take in certain things.. Shh... Sometimes, he really boring and dumb but he would try to give me alot of happiness ! To me, He's a cutest, nice and handsome guy ever etc!!
I love the way he love me !! ;D
Typo on my previous post - supposed be 798 days instead!! Haha
